For a while now, I’ve been wanting to comment on your posts. I feel that we are much the same in some aspects and that we are much different in others. I agree with this image/post. Depression is a terrible plague which has been cast upon some people, and it is not fair in any way that they must deal with this whilst others remain in control, happy, and carefree.
First, I will leave a disclaimer. Not everything you will read during this post will be something that you necessarily agree with, nor will all of it be something that you consider to be correct. However, the need to communicate has arisen, and I cannot stay silent any longer.
I don’t know you at all, at least not as far as the real world is concerned (outside of the internet, I mean). However, I feel that in a lot of ways we can relate, and that in a lot of ways we are very different people. This is my attempt at reaching out – both to help myself, and to help you as well. I apologize in advance if this fails, but please, just give me the chance.
I can relate to your frustrations, your insecurities, your seemingly constant need to try harder, because for you, I feel, it as if nothing you do is really enough. There can always be better. Eventually, we must learn that maybe we don’t always have to give our best to succeed. Eventually, we must learn that a job is a job, and it will only take us as far as others are willing to let us go. This is not to say that we should not work hard, because we should, but instead to say that we should know that if for some reason we are not moving forward towards our goals, it is not necessarily our fault. Other people’s wills affect us, preventing us – sometimes unfairly – from moving towards our goals.
Now I beg you, please do not feel as if you are stuck at a dead end in your career. I do not actually know you in person, but I get this feeling that you are great at what you do, that you genuinely do care about your employees, and that in itself is a success. You may or may not realize that the things you do, or the things you say, or even how you act, will affect the performance of these people of whom you lead. Some of these people are more than likely lost. Maybe some of them are scared of their futures, their successes, etc, just as you are. Maybe you and they can relate to each other more that you would notice.
Once again, I restate that I don’t know you, nor what is going through your head, and that I hope that I do not offend you in any way. Trust me on this, I understand the horrifying nature of a panic attack, the frustration when people take their own insecurities out on you, and the desperation of the people who rob you with no consideration of anyone but themselves.
It took me a long time to realize, I suppose, that most people act in their own self-interest. They don’t intentionally mean to cause you harm when they do what they do. In this I refer to stealing. Personally, I have been in their situation – almost. I never was one for theft, but I did hang around many people who stole for their own benefit in the past. These people are what I would now label as “pathetic” simply for the fact that they were so intent on making themselves feel better for the moment, that they could not see that their actions might have had an effect on the employees that worked at the stores from which they stole. Drug addiction, mental handicaps, etc. I don’t really have any good excuses for which people commit these crimes, because, honestly, there are no good excuses. However, these are acts of desperation. Pity these people, because they are not able to do what you have been able to achieve – living an honest life, despite troubles you may or may not have encountered.
I know you probably would not like it if I said to just “smile” and that everything was okay. If someone said that to me, I’d probably want to slap them. So I won’t say any of that. What works for me may not work for you, and the opposite is in effect in that statement as well.
I can’t give you a solution to everything you struggle with in your life, but I do want you to know that there is someone out there who does actually care. Someone who can relate. Someone you may never really know, but who feels as if they know you enough to post something like this on your blog.
For me, I guess my solution to my troubles might be something like what I’ve just done. Maybe you won’t read a thing I’ve written, but I truly hope you do. Getting outside of my own emotions helps me, and reaching out to someone with the same “issues” (oh god I hate that term) helps me in some strange way.
I can’t solve anything for you, and I won’t try, but perhaps we can learn from each other, open up, and trust.
Because trusting someone else is the hardest thing that I ever will have to do. So here’s to trusting that you won’t brush off what I’ve written. And here’s to trusting that something will change.
Thank you for your response. I enjoyed reading it and appreciate your taking time to respond with your feelings.
The point to my blog is an outlet for me to express my feelings, frustrations, and some ways I handle it. One of my ways is Blog posting. Another is hugging a plush little pony tightly while trying not to cry (hence the stuffedtherapy name).
I know it is hard to write to someone, anyone, out there and not know how they will take it. I will say, Good for you! Please, continue to read and comment and share with anyone you feel could benefit from this blog.
My Stuffed Little Therapy 
For a while now, I’ve been wanting to comment on your posts. I feel that we are much the same in some aspects and that we are much different in others. I agree with this image/post. Depression is a terrible plague which has been cast upon some people, and it is not fair in any way that they must deal with this whilst others remain in control, happy, and carefree.
First, I will leave a disclaimer. Not everything you will read during this post will be something that you necessarily agree with, nor will all of it be something that you consider to be correct. However, the need to communicate has arisen, and I cannot stay silent any longer.
I don’t know you at all, at least not as far as the real world is concerned (outside of the internet, I mean). However, I feel that in a lot of ways we can relate, and that in a lot of ways we are very different people. This is my attempt at reaching out – both to help myself, and to help you as well. I apologize in advance if this fails, but please, just give me the chance.
I can relate to your frustrations, your insecurities, your seemingly constant need to try harder, because for you, I feel, it as if nothing you do is really enough. There can always be better. Eventually, we must learn that maybe we don’t always have to give our best to succeed. Eventually, we must learn that a job is a job, and it will only take us as far as others are willing to let us go. This is not to say that we should not work hard, because we should, but instead to say that we should know that if for some reason we are not moving forward towards our goals, it is not necessarily our fault. Other people’s wills affect us, preventing us – sometimes unfairly – from moving towards our goals.
Now I beg you, please do not feel as if you are stuck at a dead end in your career. I do not actually know you in person, but I get this feeling that you are great at what you do, that you genuinely do care about your employees, and that in itself is a success. You may or may not realize that the things you do, or the things you say, or even how you act, will affect the performance of these people of whom you lead. Some of these people are more than likely lost. Maybe some of them are scared of their futures, their successes, etc, just as you are. Maybe you and they can relate to each other more that you would notice.
Once again, I restate that I don’t know you, nor what is going through your head, and that I hope that I do not offend you in any way. Trust me on this, I understand the horrifying nature of a panic attack, the frustration when people take their own insecurities out on you, and the desperation of the people who rob you with no consideration of anyone but themselves.
It took me a long time to realize, I suppose, that most people act in their own self-interest. They don’t intentionally mean to cause you harm when they do what they do. In this I refer to stealing. Personally, I have been in their situation – almost. I never was one for theft, but I did hang around many people who stole for their own benefit in the past. These people are what I would now label as “pathetic” simply for the fact that they were so intent on making themselves feel better for the moment, that they could not see that their actions might have had an effect on the employees that worked at the stores from which they stole. Drug addiction, mental handicaps, etc. I don’t really have any good excuses for which people commit these crimes, because, honestly, there are no good excuses. However, these are acts of desperation. Pity these people, because they are not able to do what you have been able to achieve – living an honest life, despite troubles you may or may not have encountered.
I know you probably would not like it if I said to just “smile” and that everything was okay. If someone said that to me, I’d probably want to slap them. So I won’t say any of that. What works for me may not work for you, and the opposite is in effect in that statement as well.
I can’t give you a solution to everything you struggle with in your life, but I do want you to know that there is someone out there who does actually care. Someone who can relate. Someone you may never really know, but who feels as if they know you enough to post something like this on your blog.
For me, I guess my solution to my troubles might be something like what I’ve just done. Maybe you won’t read a thing I’ve written, but I truly hope you do. Getting outside of my own emotions helps me, and reaching out to someone with the same “issues” (oh god I hate that term) helps me in some strange way.
I can’t solve anything for you, and I won’t try, but perhaps we can learn from each other, open up, and trust.
Because trusting someone else is the hardest thing that I ever will have to do. So here’s to trusting that you won’t brush off what I’ve written. And here’s to trusting that something will change.
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Thank you for your response. I enjoyed reading it and appreciate your taking time to respond with your feelings.
The point to my blog is an outlet for me to express my feelings, frustrations, and some ways I handle it. One of my ways is Blog posting. Another is hugging a plush little pony tightly while trying not to cry (hence the stuffedtherapy name).
I know it is hard to write to someone, anyone, out there and not know how they will take it. I will say, Good for you! Please, continue to read and comment and share with anyone you feel could benefit from this blog.
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